What is
the problem with problems?
Some people make a living solving other people’s
problems. And then there is me ….
This is
what I know to date
- Problems
are by nature problematic. Collectively we have environmental, political,
economic, and social problems. Individually we have health, emotional, mental,
social and spiritual problems. All problems can be frightening, challenging and
controversial. Problems are also persistent in that they keep coming back if
not solved properly.
- Problems
are timeless and universal. Everyone who has every lived, everyone who is
living now and everyone who will live in the future has and will have essentially
the same problems
- Problems
are paradoxical and hierarchical. We
have global problems and we have local problems. These problems can be simple
or complex. Whether global or local,
simple or complex, some problems are more important at different times in
different places.
- Problems
are common and ordinary. Everyone has problems and everyone solves problems in
their own way. We are addicted to problems. We love to talk about our problems
and we especially love to solve the problems of others! Problems are
rationalizations and justifications for just about anything that happens in
this world. We fill our newspapers and
TV’s with them. Books and movies are
built around them. Yet problems also are the very essence of human progress and
individual growth.
So, I
embarked on a study of everyday problem solving. I watched my neighbors solve
problems. I talked to business men about their problems. I listened to politicians
talking about problems solving on TV and in newspapers. I read books about
famous problem solvers and I researched problems solving on the internet. I came
away more confused than ever
I couldn’t
teach him the seven step approach besides he seemed to be doing fine all by
himself.
That son
of mine cannot hold a conversation in any language and is just now grappling
with the notion of “no”. He barely understands the notion of balance let alone
the laws of physics required to stand up.
He was
solving the problem of standing naturally. It was as if some internal compass
pointed to the problem and the internal physical and mental systems required to
complete the job kick-started all by themselves. Without even knowing what he expected to
accomplish, he began the process of overcoming his present limitations.
He also
was solving the problem of standing spontaneously and creatively. Every time he
got the opportunity he leveraged himself up in any way he could using any possible
physical object within reach. He was unrelenting in his pursuit. Every day in every
way he was practicing and learning.
He also had
a good attitude for problem solving. He was undeterred by success or failure. If
he fell down, he got up. If he got up, he tried to walk. He was not looking for
approval. He was not competing with anyone or for anything. He didn’t care
about his 10 month old friend who could already walk.
Now you
can’t generalize about integrity based problem solving just by watching a baby
but it did help.
Integrity
is defined as wholeness, consistency and objectivity. In simple words, it is
doing the right thing, doing the next right thing and doing things right.
Wholeness
is the state of completeness. The
problem of not being able to stand was overcome in order that he could become
complete a standing in order to solve the problem of walking. Becoming complete
is a natural process that begins with conception. That natural process includes
a built in compass that identifies and engages problems. Problem solving then
is a natural process that stimulates the journey to completion.
Consistency
is the state of holding things together in time and space. Following the
natural inclination to overcome the problem of standing, a baby is disciplined
and relentless in their use of time and incredibly creative in using everything
in their immediate world to complete the task.
Objectivity
is the ability to deal with the features and characteristics of the problem,
not the thoughts about the problem. Babies
are pure in their approach. They don’t think about the problem the way we do.
They just work on it and learn from it. Nor does a baby measure success or
failure the way we measure it. They are not looking for fame, fortune or power.
Finally they solve problems without competition and stress.
So what
does this mean to you? Integrity based problem solving simply means getting
back to these basics
- Problem
solving is a natural and essential process that we are well equipped to do even
if we have forgotten how. And problems never go away even if we want them to.
So we better get good at it!
- You
have everything you need right in front of you to solve problems. You have all
time you need and more than enough resources. Even if you are not good at one
type of problem, you can always hire someone who is.
- Problem
solving will teach you purity of thought and objectivity in action. Aren’t
these goals enough of reason to engage any problem.
Want to learn more? Contact me at principledynamics@gmail.com or call
me. I want to speak to you about integrity and how it can help you and all of us.


Biologists would tell us that without any stress, life would not be possible. There has to be a physical and mental pressure on us in order to keep systems functioning and allow them to heal, grow, develop, strengthen, etc. Your son had a drive to succeed in learning to walk. Part of that drive is probably a need to get moving so his environment could widen and he could make more discoveries - and learn. It is part of human nature to seek stimulation (positive stress).
He was dedicated to achieving his goal. Remaining true to his goal, even during set-backs allowed him to achieve in the end. The lesson?
We need to find our visions for ourselves and hold those visions as we work to achieve them. Hold them even during the times when we are not succeeding or must temporarily step off the path for some reason. Doing so allows us to get back on the path later!
Another lesson: When we have mastery over our selves and our environment, we have integrity - and inner peace.
The observation that "... some problems are more important at different times in different places" is the foundation of my Values-Matrix{TM} decision making model. They key to an integrated and authentic life is to avoid snagging those threads in the fabric of our values-matrix. And if we do snag a thread (which is inevitable as persons), integrity and wholeness gives us the toolkit to repair the snag and reweave our matrix.
Warmly,
JudgmentCall
Posted by: Kira Goettling | October 13, 2008 at 11:22 AM